Modesty vs. Femininity

Now don't get huffed at the title yet. Let me explain first.

On a message forum that I frequent, the issue of modesty came up. One of the comments got me thinking. Many women were detailing the thoughts behind being modesty (Our thoughts need to be right before our outsides will be right) and describing skirt length and shirt heighth, etc.

One of the members commented about how they wouldn't be considered as modest because they wore mostly pants.

The comments struck me funny, but I couldn't place what was wrong. Then it hit me (not too painfully though :-). There is a difference between being modest and being feminine.

Modesty includes having a right attitude about your clothes and how you appear. There a certain "musts" for modesty, such as not showing too much skin, not wearing too much makeup, etc. But a lot of it is your attitude. Are you wearing that skirt/shirt with the right mindset. Will those who see you be uplifted or will they need to turn their eyes away? (And I'm not just talking about young men here.) Also, are you seeking to praise the Lord's name with your dress?

Femininity refers more to what you are wearing. A dress is feminine. A skirt is feminine. A blouse is feminine. Feminine clothing makes you feel like a woman. When you wear feminine clothing, no one could mistake you for a man. On the reverse side, dressing feminine doesn't mean dressing modestly. You can be wearing feminine blouses, skirts, shoes and be very immodest, as we all know.

I think this is wear the "wearing pants" issue comes in. I don't think pants are feminine. I know I've probably lost half of the readers, but those that are left, please hear me out. I think some pants can be perfectly modest. I'm not looking down on those who wear pants. If I owned any, I would wear them if needed. But I don't think they are feminine.

So back to the original post at the message board...I feel bad for those young ladies who thought that others would think they weren't modest because they wear pants. You can be modest and wear pants. You can be lovely and wear pants. You can have the right heart attitude and wear pants. I think the issue they were addressing (and others in the thread un knowingly just by their responses) was the femininity issue.

Tiffany

Too funny

I spent the first year of my college life as a Home Economics major and endured all the teasing therein. So when I found this post I had to really control myself to keep from laughing out loud during nap time!

Enjoy!

Tiffany

Wow! I'm shocked!

I just found this on another blog and thought I would try it. It somehow (although I'm still doubting the accuracy of this:-) "grades" your blog!

I really don't trust this because I put in another blog and it was listed as undergrad, but I know the person is much more intelligent than I. However, I'll just enjoy this little bit of "elevation". :-)

Tiffany

The Wit and Wisdom of C. S. Lewis

"To sleep under the stars, to drink nothing but well water and to live chiefly on nuts and wild fruit, was a strange experience for Caspian after his bed with silken sheets in a

tapestried chamber at the castle, with meals laid out on gold and silver dishes in

the anteroom, and attendants ready at his call. But he had never enjoyed himself

more. Never had sleep been more refreshing nor food tasted more savory."

Prince Caspian

Theme Song

Mrs. Tiggles has a new theme song:

"Babyface

You've got the cutest little

Babyface"

I think it fits. ;-)

Tiffany

Where do you keep your Hedgehog?

I'm keep mine in the only place logical to keep a hedgie....my pocket!

We were having a tea with some friends we haven't seen for a while and I thought it would be fun to have Tiggles with me. So I chose a skirt with nice big pockets and plopped her in and wore her around all through the tea! Just so you know, it's a very strange sensation to have your pocket move!

And I just had to add this 'cause she's so cute!

Tiffany

Confirmation!

You are looking at the house we will be staying in during our visit to Bath in September. We just called and got confirmation that we are booked. It's perfectly situated for our visit to the Jane Austen Festival.

Promenade follows the Circus and the Royal Crescent and this is where we will be staying:

This circle of buildings is the Circus and the crescent shaped buildings at the end is the Royal crescent (shocking I know:-) and the arrow is the Brock House.

I'm so excited. It's becoming very real now. The website for this B&B is worth looking at just for the pictures of Bath.

Tiffany

"And So It Begins"

Today we went back to school. It's funny, I was kind of dreading it in a way. I was worried about the children's behavior mostly. After not being in an environment like school, it's so easy to lose all that has been learned.

But they suprised me. They walked in, remember what they were supposed to do and did it without comment or complaint. I hadn't planned on getting much done (although I was prepared, I've learned to prepare more than you can do:-), but we got through everything!

That should teach me about worrying, right? Of course right!

I think this is going to be a good rest of the year. :-)

Tiffany

A Brand New Year

"All this time the Lion's song, and his stately prowl, to and fro, backward and forward, was going on...When a line of dark first sprang up on a ridge...[Polly] felt that they were connected with a series of deep, prolonged notes which the Lion had sung a sceond before. And when he burst into a rapid series of lighter notes she was not surprised to see primroses suddenly appearing in every direction. Thus...she felt quite certain that all the things were coming (as she said) 'out of the Lion's head.'"

The Magician's Nephew

C.S. Lewis

This is a new year. I'm oddly excited about this new year. Not that anything particular is going on (well, there is the trip to England, but anyhoo...), I'm just excited at this "new beginning" we've been given.

It's like the beginning of an adventure...I have no idea what's going to happen in it. But the journey of discovering it will be exciting!

Tiffany