Now don't get huffed at the title yet. Let me explain first.
On a message forum that I frequent, the issue of modesty came up. One of the comments got me thinking. Many women were detailing the thoughts behind being modesty (Our thoughts need to be right before our outsides will be right) and describing skirt length and shirt heighth, etc.
One of the members commented about how they wouldn't be considered as modest because they wore mostly pants.
The comments struck me funny, but I couldn't place what was wrong. Then it hit me (not too painfully though :-). There is a difference between being modest and being feminine.
Modesty includes having a right attitude about your clothes and how you appear. There a certain "musts" for modesty, such as not showing too much skin, not wearing too much makeup, etc. But a lot of it is your attitude. Are you wearing that skirt/shirt with the right mindset. Will those who see you be uplifted or will they need to turn their eyes away? (And I'm not just talking about young men here.) Also, are you seeking to praise the Lord's name with your dress?
Femininity refers more to what you are wearing. A dress is feminine. A skirt is feminine. A blouse is feminine. Feminine clothing makes you feel like a woman. When you wear feminine clothing, no one could mistake you for a man. On the reverse side, dressing feminine doesn't mean dressing modestly. You can be wearing feminine blouses, skirts, shoes and be very immodest, as we all know.
I think this is wear the "wearing pants" issue comes in. I don't think pants are feminine. I know I've probably lost half of the readers, but those that are left, please hear me out. I think some pants can be perfectly modest. I'm not looking down on those who wear pants. If I owned any, I would wear them if needed. But I don't think they are feminine.
So back to the original post at the message board...I feel bad for those young ladies who thought that others would think they weren't modest because they wear pants. You can be modest and wear pants. You can be lovely and wear pants. You can have the right heart attitude and wear pants. I think the issue they were addressing (and others in the thread un knowingly just by their responses) was the femininity issue.
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